How to deal with people you are not friends/together with anymore?

As I promised, this is a guide how you can behave you liked a lot, but because of certain circumstances are not friends anymore.

There are two options:
- You are giving them a silent treatment to get them back.
- You are seriously done, but don't want any trouble.

You should know, what you really want and what would be best for you (two) . Don't forget to keep your dignity. Your decisions make you as a person.

So if you plan to get them back as a friend, you can try the silent treatment. Usually applied on boys, rather than on girls, especially if you go for a longer period of time. Boys tend to suffer more on a loss after a certain time and girls usually cry, shout and then get a distraction. Might also be another boy ;) (It is very stereotypical and actually meant more as a joke than a real advise.)
The silent treatment can only be applied if you already are kind of important to someone.

If you are really ready to quit a friendship in good terms:

• Be polite, say Hi-Bye. 
• Go your own way.
• Don't badmouth them. 
• Try to avoid them, don't stalk.
• Don't play mind games, this will hurt you more than your friend.
• If they try to be your friend again, think about it. It might be just for their ego. They want to be more important to you then you are to them. (Or they are serious about it, use your subjective opinion ;))

So, let's say you need something from this person. These things always happen, when you least expect/want them to happen. What can you do then?

I usually go for the "Honest, there is nothing wrong about it version." So I will just go and tell them what I need and since I have been nice to them (bullet points), I expect them to be nice too in return.

But honesty is as I think not the most clever thing to go for. Even if you are not that interested into caring too much about it, you probably have to try harder to get something from them. They gained importance after getting asked for a favor....so probably on a trip now.

What you can do instead is: Ask a friend to ask your former friend.

If they still say no or are just behaving openly like a douche. Just leave it. You won't get it anyway.

You won't get ANYTHING out of here, you are just wasting time. There was a reason you quit the friendship in the first place and this is one of the reminders.


If you quit the friendship in bad terms:

There are no rules. Go for it. Steal it. Beat him. Whatever you want, but don't get caught or hurt anybody.


Thank you for reading :D I really appreciate it! I would love to read some comments! Tell me, about your experience with best friends gone bitches. Looove a good bitch-story ;)

How to deal with the loss of a (Girl/Boy-)friend?

Classes are coming to an end, everyone is frustrated, too many misunderstandings and low tolerance...

All of these things happen to all of us every year, but it seems like this year is special...

Everyone is losing somebody, it could be a  good friend, bf, gf, father, daughter, grandparents,...it is for sure a tough time..

So how can we cope with our problems? 

I researched how to deal with losing people, after I have lost my best friend, I had for almost 2 years, starting with a dispute, ending with a silent treatments. As my sister lost her best friend, my aunt lost her child, my sister's friend lost her father and her boyfriend, and my friend lost his girlfriend and his grandmother at the same time. Everyone has lost someone  in their life! I didn't, at least I never cared about it or understood it well enough, now I did and it was pretty hard at first, I have to admit! This time I will go through the break up (girl-) friend edition. Since there is as I think a difference between death and end of relationships.

I have to say that breakups are harder to process than death, since there is something very bad always in your mind, called : HOPE.

You go through 5 stages that lead you to the final fifth one: acceptance.

1) Denial : "We are just fighting" "That's not real" "S/he will apologize" "It's not that bad", these are the things we tell ourselves. Just close your eyes and tell yourself it didn't happen. You know something is wrong and serious, but you don't want to name it. Because if you don't name it, it's not real. Be true to yourself, always. If you look back and think, I shouldn't have said this or that, you will feel sad, but if you tell the truth, there is nothing to be sorry for. This is what you think. And this will take you to what you actually are and not push you into a cave you don't fit in.

2) Anger : "It's your fault" "You are never here, when I need you!" "I wish, I would have never met you" Anger. The only thing you should try to keep in yourself. I know I told you to be honest, but this is not the time, because you are not yourself right now. You are angry, you can't do anything about it, neither can anybody else. DON'T make anything stupid! especially not in public. 

3) Bargaining : "I can do this and she can do that" "That's a nice compromise" "We can try at least" "Leave us some time to think" This part occurs between all the stages, again and again and again. You will try it as long as you can to compromise. But should you? I mean isn't there someone better for you (again it's the (girl-) friend edition, no one is expecting you to get another grandma)? Who would not just accept, but like you, the way you are? Where you don't have to do compromises just to keep them with you? I know nobody wants to hear about other people, who will treat you better, because you think this is the only person you want! This happens especially if you have been so close to someone that you didn't even think of other people. But they are there. And they might be waiting for you.

4) Depression : "I don't want to live without him" "I feel so empty" "She was the best thing I ever had"Cry. DO it as you want. But don't do it forever. You should set yourself a time limit. 

THEN YOU SHOULD: 

Go out with friends. Try to be with people all the time, to get your mind somewhere else. Don't force yourself to think: "She used to do that, He liked this too". Try to hide all the things that remind you ONLY about this person. Don't read all the letters, messages, chats you wrote. Don't listen to the music, he showed you. Find yourself new hobbies, maybe not the regular ones. Something that makes you happy, can be shopping too. Don't make eating your one and only hobby! This will make you fat -->low self esteem --> sad --> eat --> fat -- vicious circle. I think you are getting it. Work on yourself. This is the most productive time. You have a lot of space in your life now. Use it! Fill it wit
h things, you always wanted, never had time or confidence enough to do. You have been so disciplined with this and people who are disciplined can do and get wherever they want!

5) Acceptance : You will get there! Don't worry. It may take some weeks or months, but you will make there. 

You always get something from old friends. If it was a good friend, than a good memory. If it was a bad one then experience. 

You should be proud of yourself. You did something very hard and what doesn't  kill you makes you stronger. And you are. 

I hope this helped you analyzing your behavior.  I will try to write about how to behave meeting your friend and a losing someone, because of death version too.

Please comment, like and share :D Tell about your first or worst loss :) Thank you and I hope you will get through this! You are strong, never forget! :D

Men drive better than women, it's official! We can't hide it!

I am a bad driver! 

I admit it. Since I have the driver's licence, I don't even mind anyoneelse saying it...

So I was driving, cruising around town again, actually just having a 5 min drive from home to dad's office. And there it was again. The parking problem...

This time it wasn't that hard, big space, just got it in and started happily walking. Then my uncle came to me and said, that I can't park here...still don't know why...never read the labels.

So I reparked  it, he showed me another parking space next to an open cafe, with a garden outside, which had a fence around it, and I wanted to get in completely, but my car just made a noise. I knew I had a scratch.

I tried and tried and there were 5 men from eastern countries (Serbia, Bosnia,...) and they told me how I could do it...didn't get it. Then my uncle parked it for me. Finally. 

The people were pretty nice, just making jokes with me, why I couldn't park. 

Well, I guess they have a high tolerance threshold, when it comes to women and parking.

I am pretty glad about it, but still I need to learn to park. Or at least marry someone who can. Bengali Style. ;)

Veganmania Vienna 2013

First of all, I am Not vegan! I love meat and couldn't even imagine a life without all of it. 

Either way, I got an invitation via FB to go there and even though I hate going to FB events, I really fancied this one.

My sister didn't want to go at all, but I told her that she can buy any food she might want and she went with me. Funny enough, she even liked it more than I did! 

We ate some food that looked similar to meat, listened to a great band, met a old high school friend of mine and enjoyed a hot cake. Might not sound or look delicious, but it was.

There wasn't an actual vegan atmosphere, because most of the people where as I think, not vegan. Just there to dip into there culture. Weird to call them a culture...

All in all I would recommend this event to anyone and looking forward to meet new people next time. :)

How to avoid being used?

How to avoid being used?

We all know these people, who are only nice to you if they need something. How can you detect these people and make them stop or even better make yourself stop?

History: So we have a group of 5 to do a project. In the end, we ended up to be 3 people attending the meetings and doing the work, which was ok. But then one of the missing students, showed up at the appointment with our teacher, to collect the mark and the other one wrote us after the meeting if our project was done...

Clearly, this is a sign of being used. Some people can still stay strong and just say "NO", but there is also people, who don`t even realized that they are being used.

So lets start:

1. Detect if you are being used. If you already know you might be the victim, stop whining and crying, because as always,
   
   "If you know something is wrong, you can start making it right."
2. Think about your benefits. Most of the time, you are getting used you won`t carry a real benefit from it. (By the way: experience doesn`t always count as a benefit.)
3. Is this person important to you? Of course there is a difference between family/friend ro a stranger. So keep that in mind too.
4. Limit your time. If you think you want to help even without any benefits, its cool. but keep your time limited, otherwise you will have to do a lot more then expected.
5. SAY "NO". This is the actual thing you need to know. But even though it may notseem like it, the most difficult one. But believe me the first time you say it might be easy, but then you will get used to it and you might even enjoy it. :D
6. DON'T Apologize! Its your right and your time, so you can say NO, whenever you want. Keep that in mind. People who are getting used tend to apologize a lot and
   
   "If you stop behaving like a victim, you won`t be a victim!"
7. Don't even feel bad. The person asking you for a favour is probably already looking for someoneelse to ask to help them. Its not the end of the world and now that you have a voice, you are probably more respected then before.
8. Build up your confidence. You are an important person, otherwise people wouldn`t ask you for a favour. Your time is valuable and so are you. Keep in mind and tell yourself that you did something good. Something important, that needed to be done.
   
   
   

   I hope I could help you and I wish you luck and fun standing up against these kind of people. Comment if you want and don't forget.
   
   "Be yourself, but try being better too. ;)"

Subway Surfers - How to break your record?

      Best Subway Surfers Guide

Subway Surfers, we all know the game, a simple concept: just dont die!

So how can you break your record and the Scores of your friends? I have been playing this Game for about six months.

I own every character and boards (I liked) and my current Score is :

And I am going to Show you how you can achieve a Score like this 😎👍.

1. get to the 30x multipler. (There is no Way around it, just Do it and try to really achieve them, because practise makes perfect.)

2. die everytime you get a Mystery Box. (You only get one Box a Run, so if you got it...go for the Second run. A Box means money, especially if you own all token Charakters.)

3. make Money. (Buy upgrades, no Fancy  characters. Its an investment: upgrades make more money, characters dont.)

4. jetpack-Magnet-multiplier and NO JUMPING Shoes! Thats the Order of getting the upgrades. Shoes only get you  confused and you will eventually die.

5. Collect keys and hoverboards. (Hoverboards Last for 30s. I Went for a regular One, because the fast ones, might confuse you.)

6. Keys - the number of keys needed to get saved get higher. The previous Number will be multiplied by two.

eg.: 1 key...1.save

       2 keys...2.save

       4, 8, 16, 32,......

So count how many you will need and save them up for your Big Run.

7.Go for it!

 If you have everything set, then start:

- +5 Score booster

- Mega headstart

- After some time if you think the game is worth it : endless amount of HOVERBOARDS!!

- use your keys

- Beat everyone.

8. Brag! You deserve it :D. 

I hope you liked my Tipps/Tricks, guide, Blog, Cheats or whatever you would call it. Feel free to comment. I would totally love it!! :D and subscribe to my blog for more interesting posts. :)

Why a blog?

Why a blog?

I always wanted a way to express myself and show everyone what I love...but there were some problems:

1. I didn`t want to look like a creepster doing youtube videos in my room without anything special to say. And I can`t control my face and my body language all at the same time...so it would just look weird after                           some time :P
2. I dont really know what I would have shown you...since I don't really have a hobby I can name, like drawing or dancing and stuff. 

But then it hit me. I am 20 years old. My whole life is in front of me. I have enough time to go through all the things to find my perfect passion and my perfect someone. <3


Right now if I would have anything to call my passion, it would be my closet. I love fashion and I am not talking about haute couture or anything, just about clothes that can be worn every day. 


Sooooo, I hope you will enjoy reading and experiencing my blog. :D